I get it, somebody was totally rude to you and it sent you down a three-mile track down negativity Road, thinking things like “I’m not good enough. Nothing I ever do works. I can’t believe it, nobody likes me” and it – so it goes. You guys, I don’t know if you’ve ever been there but I certainly have and today I’m going to share with you three ways that you can stop caring about what other people think so you are no longer triggered at all. Are you ready? Hey you guys, my name is Denise Walsh, welcome back to my channel! In today’s video, I’m gonna give you three ways that you can not care about what people think so you are no longer triggered and on an emotional roller coaster journey throughout your life.
Now, let’s first start with what is emotional triggering. Emotional triggering – triggering basically just means that something on the outside of your world impacted you on the inside. You are emotionally triggered. Typically, it’s jealousy, bitterness, anger, resentment, insecurity, self-doubt, anxiety that can be triggered that sends us down a negative stinking thinking path. And I can tell you, if your outside circumstances trigger you consistently throughout your day, you are consistently on this up and down emotional rollercoaster.
Now, what I’ve learned is that those things that emotionally trigger you are most likely things are already insecure about. Oh, I’ve had to learn this the hard way. So for example, if somebody were to say to me “Denise, you travel too much” and I already think I travel too much and I’m already feeling insecure about the way that I’m a mom or our family or something, when they say that, I might emotionally get defensive. I might emotionally get triggered, and it’s because I’m already thinking the same thing. I’m already insecure about that area of my life.
Now, let’s say somebody says “Denise, you travel too much” and I’m not – I’m secure in that area, I don’t think I travel too much, I think my family is great and that me traveling once a month is no big deal, then that wouldn’t trigger me. I would have little to no emotion about somebody saying that to me.
So, when you notice that you’re emotionally triggered, recognize that that means that it’s often something you’re already insecure about and it gives us a chance to become more secure in that area. So, the three things that I recommend if you’re feeling emotionally triggered often is to number one; know who you are. Know who you are. Know who you are. The stronger you feel on the inside, the less you care what people say or think on the outside because you know who you are. You are living your truth.
So one thing that you can do to start this process is get a piece of paper out, write your name at the top and then write a list of all of these qualities that you have. The amazing, great, unique, fun, supportive, loving qualities that you have. What do you love, what comes naturally to you, who are you. If somebody were to say your name, what do they think of and you can even ask a few friends to give input if you like. And then I’d recommend reading this consistently because the truth never changes, this is who you are and the stronger you are, the less you care about what other people think.
The second thing to remember is that nobody cares more about your life, your family, your business, your friends than you do, period, nobody. Nobody can care more. So, all of the naysayers, all of the – the yappers that are kind of talking negative or saying mean things, they don’t live your life, they have no idea. They’re just talking to talk, right? So, they don’t care about your life as much as you do, so why are we letting them influence our lives as much as we do sometimes? So, recognize that we have to – we have to know what voice to listen to and most often those are not the voices. So the third thing is to surround yourself with people who speak life into you. Know who the voices are that you can trust. Choose to spend time with them and if you do need feedback on a certain situation, then you can certainly ask them. But don’t let other people’s opinions, other people’s fears, other people’s negativity get in your bubble. We know that when people are negative, it’s often just a reflection of where they’re at in life and less of a reflection on where you’re at. So we have to take everything with a grain of salt.
You know, one of my friends said to me one time, he said “I take everybody’s input in and then I release it to God. And I thought, “well that is very good of you, yes sure, hmm, but why do you even bring it in?” I’ve heard to pretend like I’ve got this bubble around me and things just kind of pop off and when I need feedback or have questions, I can go to my inner circle for that.
I hope that this was helpful. My friend, you do not need to care what other people think because you know who you are and you know where you are going.
And if you want more of this type of information, check out my podcast called Dreamcast, tons of amazing stories you guys. So inspirational, motivational and I learn a ton through these interviews. And then also check out my action planner. If you haven’t gotten it yet, DeniseWalsh.com/action. It is a free PDF download that allows you to brain dump your priorities and reorganize your calendar so you know you’re going in a direction you desire. Have an amazing day, be sure to subscribe, hit the notification bell and I’ll see you in the next video.